CONTEXT
I can't stop thinking about this quote:
"You think you’re an introvert because you like being alone. But in reality you just love being at peace. And you’re actually extroverted around people who bring you peace.” — Zachary Laid
So good, right?
I do consider myself introverted. But I’d argue everyone loves “being at peace.” It’s like we’re drawn (by a magnetic pull) to the people who do that for us.
Here are 3 specific ways to be magnetic (that you can steal):
THE METHOD
☝️ 1. Ask at least 2 questions before giving your opinion. (This shows the other person that you’re actually interested. It makes them feel understood.)
✌️ 2. Repeat back something they said. "I love that you mentioned [x]." "So what I'm hearing is [x]." (When you make them feel heard, they’re way more likely to agree with the next thing you say.)
🤟 3. Put away distractions. Phone off the table. Laptop closed. Earbuds out. (When you give your full attention, it gets noticed. This makes them feel seen.)
WHY IT WORKS
Maya’s famous quote sums it up:
"People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." — Maya Angelou
At the end of the day, everyone wants to feel understood, heard, and seen.
Until next week,
Jade